I Save $100’s on Skin Care by Using Groupon

I am such a dumbass. I completely forgot how much money I used to save through Groupon. Now that I realize I should have been using retail me not and honey makes me feel like an even bigger dumbass.

I just bought skin care products that would have cost me $100-$500 anywhere else. I found a $100 day cream for about 25 bucks. I found an eye cream that costs over $400 for about another 25 bucks.

Sign up for groupon and get you some savings!


Katie Joy and the Karen Apocalypse

Katie Joy’s shenanigans give me flashbacks to all of the Myspace bloggers and their pathetic attention whoring behavior I had to deal with from a group of bitter pedantic hags who were knee deep in a midlife crisis, smoking a bowl of weed or downing the giggle water, desperate to take their wrath out on anyone over the fact that they have lost their minds realizing they peaked in high school. Or as a writer, peaked on Myspace.

They are dinosaurs shifted and dusted from the rubble of that clusterf*ck of a social network. So many writers that had potential but were too chicken sh*t to stick their neck out and try to get paid for their writing like I did. I’ll be damned if all of my best content was going to be going down with that Titanic failure. I came, I saw, I conquered, and unlike some people, I moved on.

I share this “tea” with you because there is nothing under the sun anyone can come up with that I have not already seen insofar as internet publicity stunts *cough*Gabbie Hannah*cough* go. It has all be done by either a troll like me or Tila Tequila. Trish Paytas wouldn’t even exist if Tila had not paved the path for future publicity whores like her. We did it for the lulz. This next generation has replaced “lulz” with “memes”. It’s still the same troll product, just packaged under a different name. It isn’t even up for debate the way Taylor Ham and porkroll are, and that is a debate that has lived on since the year 1856.

Listening to your elders is a good thing. Always remember that.

Skin Care Series: Skincare For Dark Skin

I am writing this right now with my kid while she is eating a bagel in the middle of the night because she slept all day. I’m doing research on this topic, and I am going to do my best to find products that everyone with a dark complexion can use.

Now that I have done some research, this is what I’ve found:

The number one thing that those with black or brown skin have to worry about the most is hyperpigmentation. Also, the more melanin skin has, the more fatty acids and vitamins it needs, and it is also a good idea to stay away from sulphates.

According to The Zee Report, these are ingredients that are better for those with black or brown skin:

1). shea butter

2). almond oil

3). aloe vera

4). baobab oil

According to Oprah’s website, these are ingredients that help with hyperpigmentation:

1). vitamin C

2). niacinamide

3). hydroquinone

4). retinol

5). glycolic or lacic acid

According to my research, these are the best brands for combating hyperpigmentation and are the best for black/brown skin overall:

1). Sunday Riley

2). The Ordinary

3). Elta MD

4). Drunk Elephant

If you are a POC and would like to share your skin care favorites, leave a comment below and I will make a part 2 of this series. Don’t forget to follow/subscribe!

The Sociopath Next Door

Of all the things to listen to while on vacation, I decided to listen to the audio version of the book The Sociopath Next Door a few years ago. I realized I wanted to listen to it because it had been nagging me because my instincts were telling me that it was a possibility that I was (and still am) dealing with a sociopath.

It was the lying. The constant, to this day lying. That was the first thing I had to confront. I was dealing with a person who was constantly trying to gaslight me into thinking they are a certain type of person when they are, in reality, only putting on an act to either pacify me or vindicate themselves.

It turned out that my instincts were correct. This person, for as long as I have known them, has been and probably always will be happy to lie straight to my face. This person had and still has no difficulty in laying all of the blame on someone else in order to get the heat off of themselves. The embellishment is the trait that this person in my life has in spades. They are always the victim, they are quick to re-write history, they spend all of their time and energy putting on this false persona to the public that they are a responsible and selfless person when in reality they are the most selfish human being I have ever been exposed to.

The mind games. The person I deal with plays mind games whenever possible in order to get a person off of their back or to avoid responsibilities every adult should be dealing with day to day. The mind games to supplement the mind-boggling laziness. The manipulation. The tactics they have in their arsenal that they pull out at a moment’s notice to shift the blame or the responsibility off of themselves. The lack of regret about all the incredibly disgusting things they have done not just to me, but to countless others. The constant need to take the easy way out and do as little hard work as possible.

The narcissism. Again, building up this persona of being just a person who made a lot of mistakes but who is deep down genuinely awesome. Downplaying or flat out forgetting every single hurtful thing they had said and done to me. The outrage they convey whenever I bring up the fact that for our entire relationship up until now they were so abusive towards me that I had no choice but to check into a psyche ward multiple times due to the constant stress they caused me and my mental illness.

The fact that the only reason that they are even with their current significant other is that their significant other has money and keeps them living comfortably enough to for the most part disregard their responsibilities to their own offspring. The only time they make an effort is for fun things like holidays or birthdays. The fact that they constantly say it is my fault that they are not in our child’s life because I never contact them when they too stupid to the concept that communication is a two-way street. Always bringing up that I am the one who has to keep them updated through email when they have had my phone number for years and chose never to call their own child. It is always my fault that they chose to spend their money on being an alcoholic when they could be saving that money to get a car so they could visit us, which is the agreement we made when we gave full custody over to me.

It is always my fault that their child is not in their life, when they are the one who left us. Lies lies lies it’s Katie’s fault. Lies lies lies it’s Katie’s fault.

This is what I have been dealing with year after year.

Well no more.

They do not have a clue what they are up against, because I am a goddamn warrior. They will never win. Their abuse will never break me down. My parents and I along with friends and teachers have raised an amazing kid. We put the work into it. Never them.

They have no idea that they have poked this sleeping bear and gotten away with it for the last time. No more feeling sorry for them.

It’s me and my daughter. Then now and forever.

Skin Care Series: Rosacea

Rosacea is a condition that can happen to every skin color, man or woman. I inherited it from my mother, and I remember a black female classmate wound up getting rosacea back then (since black or brown skin cannot flush red, rosacea looks more like a combination of a rash with a cluster of pimples from what I remember).

This is a product that I discovered helped with acne and rosacea:

I have used this I think three times. It does have a sulfur smell so I would recommend applying this before bed. I put a small amount on all of the areas rosachea can appear: nose, cheeks, chin. You can also dab some on a pimple anywhere else, including neck chest, and back.

Skin Care Series: Face Masks

I started using face masks in high school. I am part Irish and rather pale, so I never went tanning (like a lot of Jersey girls do) and I continue to try to keep myself out of the sun as much as possible. It is a big reason why my skin now looks so good for my age (38).

I want to share with you my favorite face masks:

1). Neutrogena Clear Skin Cleanser/Mask: (It is sold in packs on amazon or you can usually find them at your local drug store/chemist for around $10)

I discovered this mask in high school and have been using it off and on for the last 20 years. It is an awesome mask to have on hand if you are a woman particularly, because the amount of benzoyl peroxide really helps with preventing hormonal acne (which I get to this day). This really helps me keep cystic acne at bay.

2). Anything by Freeman/Freeman Beauty

This is the best drug store/chemist skin care line that I have ever tried. Right now I am loving their Cosmic Peel Off Gold mask. It is really brightening because it contains grapefruit, and gets the sebum out of my pores (so do charcoal masks, but I don’t really like using them because I don’t really get blackheads badly enough, and they are too harsh on my skin). I use this as an exfoliant I follow this up with my witch hazel toner, hyaluronic acid and a moisturizer (I am going to be adding a new day moisturizer for the days I don’t want to wear my tinted moisturizer, but that’s a blog for another time). I will also be trying Freeman Beauty’s Infusion Pomegranate peel-off mask once I am out of the Cosmic Peel Off Gold mask.

3). Biotique Bio Pistachio face pack: I always put this on after I do my peel-off mask. I use this more often in the winter. It has a lot of natural oils in it and is the only mask that deeply moisturizes and isn’t so heavy that it causes breakouts.

4). Bio Republic Sheet Masks


I do not have a diverse knowledge of sheet masks at all, but this is the first company that really blew me away. Their masks (especially their cucumber mask) are so cooling and refreshing. I buy them during the summer when it is really hot because sitting in an air conditioned room with their cucumber mask on my face is just everything to me. They have a great range and the sheets are drenched in serum, so you can utilize it for other things, like a quick face massage. I massage my neck, chest, and hands with the leftover serum. You don’t have to wash your face afterwards because the serums they put in their masks evaporate on their own. This is perfect for when you are feeling your skin looks sallow in the winter or too flushed in the summer. It is definitely a brand I cannot live without.

Skin Care Series

Since I turned 35 I have become obsessed with skin care. I forsake a lot of things in my life so that I can afford to buy the skin care products that keep me from having to get plastic surgery (although I will get my eyelids done when they become too droopy). I am always trying new products, but I have staple products that I cannot live without, which I am going to share with you in this post. To my male viewers, I suggest you try these products too. I know there are a lot of men who wear makeup, and my routine is great for helping out with makeup removal. I will be doing some posts on male skin care in the future.

I have very dry sensitive skin. Sometimes (especially in this CoVid winter) I have downright dehydrated skin due to winter weather and being inside with the heat always on. I will do research and help out those with different skin types in this series.

(I am a 38 year old Caucasian and these are products I keep in my routine. I will make posts to help out POC complexions and more mature complexions in the future. These staples are things that for the most part, in my own opinion, can work for all skin types.)

Katie’s Skin Care Staples:

1). Cleanser: Clinique Foaming Facial Wash: $22.50

I received this as a gift with purchase a few months ago and have been using it ever since. It is a “cream mousse cleanser” that is for combination to oily skin types, so using this helps me keep my nose from getting too oily. You only need a small, pea sized dab of it and it foams up on your face completely. It is pricier than the cheaper brands that I like, but because of the fact that a little goes a long way, I am going to be buying it for myself once I run out. It does not dry my skin because I do not feel any tightness after using it.

Skin Tip: Another great thing about it is that because it is a cream cleanser and has that “slip” (as MUA Lisa Eldgridge puts it), you can take a few minutes to give yourself a face massage twice a day, just from that small amount!

Another tip from Lisa: if you are wearing makeup, cleanse twice. Once to remove your makeup, and again to help clear out your pores. I do this with the Clinique face wash I mentioned and it really works.

2). Toner: THAYER’S alcohol-free Witch Hazel Toner

Travel size: around $3.99

Full size: around $10.99

A former Youtuber recommended using witch hazel as a toner in one of her videos, so I bought Thayer’s to give it a try (I am not interested in putting straight witch hazel on my face because she said it has an odor to it. I have bad allergies so I need the products I put on my face to have the least amount of odor or fragrance possible.). It comes in original, rosehip, cucumber, aloe vera, and unscented. I use the cucumber version because I have rosacea, and cucumber is the number one recommended holistic way to help with that condition. I highly recommend this toner. It is alcohol free so it won’t dry out your skin. I have noticed a reduction in break outs and when I do break out, I only get a small whitehead, where before I was using a salicylic acid cleanser that didn’t really do anything but irritate my skin. I tried the rose hip in the past, and I must say, neither one of those really have much of a scent. The cucumber one is also especially nice because it gives a cooling sensation as you wipe it on with a cotton ball.

Skin Tip: I have the small container of it because at the time I was on amazon to order it, that was the only size they had. I now get the big size (12 oz) and I use that to refill my smaller container. I like to have as many sample size product containers in my makeup bag as I can so I don’t have to worry if I have to pack for a vacation or if I’m spending the night at someone else’s place.

3). Hyaluronic acid

Senallis Cosmetics: $25.98

I first had heard about hyaluronic acid from a commercial Eva Longoria did for Loreal. Like I said, my skin can get dehydrated easily, and the benefits she listed in the commercial definitely piqued my interest.

This product is a total game changer for me. I now know that I do not have to worry about wrinkles as much as I used to because of this product. When I went out to buy it (on amazon because I wanted to get something that was recommended and/or popular) I got a random small bottle with a dropper. I started using it twice a day and my worries about dehydrated skin are gone completely, for the first time in my life. Ever since I started using it, I don’t have to slather myself with rich moisturizers that clogged my pores and caused me breakouts. I put it on right before I put on my tinted moisturizer or night cream, and my smoothness of my skin is notably different.

I order a 16oz bottle that comes with a smaller 2oz bottle with a dropper. I refill that bottle the same way I refill my toner and stick it in my skin care bag.

4) Moisturizer: (I have very dry skin, and will include alternatives for those with different skin types and POC in future posts.)

Right now, I am in the middle of finding out what the perfect day and night moisturizer is going to help me.

Day: After I have cleansed, toned, and applied my hyaluronic acid, I apply a tinted moisturizer with a SPF in it. I used Cover Girl tinted moisturizer in my teens and early 30’s. Early 30’s until about 37 I used Philosophy’s tinted moisturizer, but unfortunately that has been discontinued. Right now I use IT Cosmetics Bye Bye Foundation with SPF 50 ($39.50) in their lightest shade.

It is the most expensive tinted moisturizer I have ever bought, but the coverage is just what I need. I haven’t worn foundation since I started using it, I use just this and concealer as needed.) Because my skin is very dry, I do not need to powder it. It also covers my rosacea just enough so that I look like I am wearing blush, which is a nice bonus. I am liking IT Cosmetics because the put anti-aging ingredients in all of their products.

Unfortunately, there are days (especially winter days) where my tinted moisturizer is not enough. I am on the lookout for a day cream that works for me and will update this when I have found something I like.

Night: Night cream gets tricky. I was planning on using Oil of Olay 7 in 1 night cream, but I am allergic to the fragrance. I use Neutrogena’s Light Nighttime moisturizer for now, but I am on the lookout for something more potent. If you have any suggestions, comment below! I wanted to use Meaningful Beauty’s NIght Cream/Serum but it is too expensive for me. I have been putting it on my neck and chest every night and it looks like I will be emptying it withing two weeks or so. I have my sights set on Philosophy’s Renewed Hope in a Jar NIght Cream at the moment. I will be purchasing this at the beginning of January and will update this once I have been using it for a month.

5). Eye Cream: Clinique All About Eyes Rich (1 oz) $56.00

I have tried a couple of eye creams, but this is the first one that has really made a difference. I have been using this for almost two months and I have seen improvement under my eyes. It is expensive, but a little of it goes a long way, so I will update with my thoughts once I have the empty.

6). Eye Makeup Remover: Bioderma Micellar Water

Small: $4.99

Large: $14.90

I again bought the small bottle so that I could refill it with the large bottle as needed. I split a cotton pad in two, place them over my eyes, and gently press the pad into my eyes and lashes to break up the makeup. If I still have makeup after that, I use a cotton bud and gently rub the makeup off with that. It never irritates my eyes.

That’s it for now! I will be back with my what face masks I like and am currently using.

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